Attachment disorder is common in children who have suffered trauma in their first relationships with a parent or a caregiver. A child could have been born in to a home where the parent was a drug addict and experienced abuse or neglect. The child’s parents may have died while he was still young, and then he was bounced around the foster care system.
Whatever the cause may be, the result is that the child, due to his initial relationships has suffered from feelings of mistrust, helplessness, and loneliness.
These emotional challenges can inhibit a child’s ability to form healthy relationships and connections in the future.
One of the more noticeable symptoms in older children suffering from attachment disorder is their bursts of anger, an argumentative attitude, and the child’s constant desire to be in control. These negative habits stem from the way the child was treated in his early years. If a child suffered abuse, he has often struggled with feelings of powerlessness. In his effort to avoid such feelings, he off-sets his situations by constantly trying to maintain control. This is his way of stabilizing his environment.
Those with attachment disorder also may have never learned how to properly display feelings. Their initial negative experiences have led them to resort to anger and tantrums as the best way to express feelings. They also may not have experienced that touch can be shown to mean sincere comfort and affection. Rather in the child’s mind, touch is associated with frustration and anger. If good affection was shown, the child does not completely trust the kind gesture because he may suspect that later on the abuse will be repeated.
If these symptoms are prevalent, it is essential for a parent or a care giver to seek professional help. With an expert opinion and the passage of time, a child can learn to overcome his past feelings and experiences.