Adoption is a wonderful way for families to welcome more children into their family circle and into their home. When parents choose to adopt a child, who is older, there can be some more challenges involved.
Whether the child is just a few months old or a few years old, the parents have to make a greater effort to bond with their child than those who are able to adopt their child right from birth.
Children, who are older, are more likely to have attachment disorder, due to negative experiences from initial relationships—whether it is from an abusive or neglectful parent or the lack of needed attention at an orphanage, these children suffer from lack of or negative connections and healthy relationships.
Parents, who are planning to adopt an older child, need to take time to educate themselves concerning attachment disorder. Take time to do research on the internet, speak with professional experts, and other parents who have adopted older children.
Then make a plan as to how best to approach the challenge. Decide ahead of time how you would like to treat this disorder. Bonding with your child will be an essential and major factor in helping your child successfully transition into your family.
Once the adoption is completed, act out your plan. Make the extra effort to bond and create connections with your child. Even simple things can be very effective. For example, decide that you as a parent will be the only one to get your child out of his crib after nap time or to be the one to feed him. This way the child will start to connect the idea that you are their primary caregiver and that he can trust you to help him with his needs. This will foster feelings of love and affection that can boost a successful relationship.